How to Survive Holidays and the Season as a Trans-racial Adoptee in this Political Climate
Let’s start with the obvious: this political climate is rough. It’s packed with hurt feelings, polarizing beliefs, and an almost universal urge to convince others of our “right” side. And for trans-racial adoptees navigating the holiday season? That’s a whole extra layer of complexity.
The first thing to keep in mind is this: family gatherings are no place for political debates—especially if you’re a trans-racial adoptee who has spent years carefully sidestepping discussions about race. While you may avoid the conversation, you can’t entirely escape the emotional impact of being a trans-racial adoptee in the charged atmosphere of 2025.
Let’s be real: being a trans-racial adoptee is hard.
Adoption is hard, period. But being adopted into a family with a different racial and cultural identity? That’s foundation-shaking. It’s a unique position where you’re navigating not only family dynamics but also the complexities of race, belonging, and identity—often in a society that thrives on division.
So how do you handle the holidays as a trans-racial adoptee in this political climate? Here are a few tips to help you get through with your sanity (and maybe even your holiday cheer) intact:
1. Set Boundaries With Your Family Like a Pro
Before you even arrive, have a game plan. Know your limits when it comes to conversations about politics, race, or anything else that might feel too heavy to handle. Practice phrases like, “I’d rather not get into that right now,” or “Let’s focus on enjoying the holiday together.” Boundaries aren’t just helpful—they’re essential.
2. Find Your Support System in Friends, Other Family Members, or Mentors
Identify the family members or friends who can offer you a safe space during tense moments. Maybe it’s your sibling who always knows when to crack a joke, or an understanding cousin who gets it without you having to explain. Lean on these people to recharge when the atmosphere gets heavy.
3. Take Breaks in the Form of Distancing
It’s okay to step away if you need to. Go for a walk, listen to music, or meditate. Sometimes a little alone time is the best gift you can give yourself. Remember, self-care isn’t selfish—it’s survival.
4. Reflect on Your Journey with Meditation and Journaling
The holidays can bring up complicated emotions about identity and belonging. Take some time to journal, talk with a trusted friend, or engage in activities that help you process those feelings. Acknowledge the hard stuff, but also celebrate the strength it takes to navigate this unique path.
At the end of the day, being a trans-racial adoptee means living at the intersection of multiple identities, and that’s no small feat. The holidays may be tough, but they’re also an opportunity to lean into your resilience, find moments of connection, and honor your journey. And if all else fails? There’s always pie. Lots and lots of pie.
